O.K. so I was talking to another guy I met online from where else but Plenty Of Fish. I know I know you are like what do you expect. Hell it's hard out there to meet people. Especially when all you do is work and come home and take care of your kids. The people I meet everyday are only in town for a little while. Anyways he has been trying to meet me for some time and I kept blowing off. I didn't like his aggressiveness. Like why does this dude wanna see me so bad. He would say stuff like don't let the men from your past keep you from opening up and some other bullshit. That instantly irritates me. I'm not letting the men from my past ruin my chances for relationships in the future. I'm sorry if your words aren't enough for me. Just because you say I'm pretty, I'm smart and all that other CRAP that dudes say to try to make you feel special isn't enough for me. I need something of substance. I need actions. My past only makes me more cautious and more aware of signs that back in the day I would of ignored. You are saying I'm some broken down woman that has been used up by fucked up dudes. No that is not me. I have made a mistake in the relationships I have had in the past. I know how it is now. I know the games the bullshit that comes out of their mouths and it does not impress me. That's not what I'm looking for. I don't wanna play the games. I'm not looking for a dude to make me feel pretty and special because you know what. I already know I'm fine as hell. Bad men out there love to prey on woman with low self esteem and no self worth. That is not me and that is what that sounds like to me what he thinks I am. Like I have some sign on my forehead saying I'm a desperate single mother who is looking for any man to love me. Hell no. I refuse to be that woman. It's like the guys out there are lost. They don't know what they want in their lives or relationships. They say they only want something casual and then wanna get their feelings hurt when you don't entertain the idea of it being more than that. If I'm interested in you, I won't play any games. I will let you know exactly how I feel and what I think. If you are doing something that I don't understand I will ask you right when it is happening and that's all that I want in return. I don't trust a dude who is acting like he is in love with me and he has only known me for a month, I'm not trusting a dude who immediately wants to meet my kids. That is a huge no go. The only man I will have around my kids will be one that is going to be sticking around. If he is too good to be true HE IS! Whoever I decide to bring into my world will be brought into my boys world so I'm sorry if I'm a little bit picky about who I want around them. I'm not trusting a man who says they wanna help me and pay my bills. What the fuck! Dude I don't want you to pay my bills. I had let my self become completely dependent on a man and that didn't get me no where and that will not happen again. I'm not going to be stuck with someone because they pay some bills. It's amazing how many woman are in that situation. It's absolutely crazy to me. That is not living. I wanna be with someone that supports me emotionally not financially.
I had gotten contacted by and old high school crush. He found me on facebook. So I talk to him for a couple of weeks. Not talking about dating each other or anything. Just talking about how high school used to be. Then he is like asking me questions about the area I live in and what are jobs like out here. He asked what my rent was like and how much utilities were. Then he says he had a question for me. I was like are you going to ask to move in with me. He was like I wanna help you. What the fuck. No way this dude isn't for real. I told him no of course and I never heard from him again and then a few months later another old high school love started acting the same way. I immediately right off the bat and told him if he was trying to move in with me that was not happening. It's like they look on my facebook and although my pictures show me happy and my status updates to me does not show signs of being desperate that's what they see. It's so insane to me.
It seems to me that dating is even harder than I thought it was going to be. I may be a little picky. Men just seem sorry with no jobs or cars or their own place. I know the economy is bad but I'm making it and I have kids. A single guy with no kids can't make it out there? I'm not your income, your place for you to crash, or a taxi driver. So to men all over, do not waste my time with your lame ass games. I can see right through it. I do not have low self worth and self esteem. I am not desperate and I am not broken.
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Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Monday, February 14, 2011
I've Been Hoodwinked!!!
Omg my sister has been wanting me to write a blog about this experience for a while. It's so embarrassing and it's something straight out of a comedy.
So I've been on this dating site called Plenty of Fish. I started talking to a guy who was a soldier. Living by Fort Benning it's rare if you meet a guy who is not a soldier. Anyways I digress that's a whole other story. We talked online and on the phone for a couple of weeks. He sounded like a nice guy. He sent me a picture of himself and he wasn't bad looking at all. He liked scary movies like I do. So one night I was talking to him on the phone then he had to go because he was going to a party. I called the next day in the morning and it was his roommate that answered his phone. So I'm thinking this is strange. He starts talking to me. Telling me where he is from and how he knows him and what he does. He sounded so cute. He then starts to hit on me. I was like omg what kind of dude macs on their friends chick you know. I wasn't dating the guy so I flirted back and everything. I was like man this dude sounds really cute. I kept asking for him to send me a pic. He kept giving me different excuses. Ladies that's a warning sign. I ignored it because I keep giving people the benefit of a doubt. I like to give them a chance. I am not doing that anymore. So the dude I had been talking to wakes up and I start talking to him and we were joking about how his friend was hitting on me and then he has to start getting dressed so i let him go. His friend starts texting me on his roommates phone and he eventually invites me to breakfast with them. I'm like cool. I'd love to have breakfast with two hot guys. Not to mention a free breakfast anyways. I tell them to give me an hour. I get all dolled up and wear some booty poppin skinny jeans. A cute top that showed some cleavage. I had my hair down and it was a perfect hair day. My makeup was on point. I stand back for one last look and I'm like damn I look good. So I text them stating that I was on my way. Then warning sign number two pops up. He was like are you sure you wanna have breakfast with us? That was his room mate. I'm like what the fuck. Dude do you want me to come or not? I'm thinking they just didn't wanna be stuck having breakfast with me. But the guy I had been talking to was like no no we want you to come he's just worried cause we aren't dressed to impress they just threw something on. I was like OK then I'm on my way. As I'm getting closer to waffle house. I'm getting all excited more because I'm getting a free breakfast and second I'm gonna be hanging out with some hot dudes or so I thought. He texts me telling me that they are in the back towards the restrooms. I park my car, take one last look at myself and walked in. I turn the corner. I am instantly screaming. OMG OMG OMG. Of course this was all in my head. My outward appearance was warm and friendly with a bright smile on my face. But in my head I was totally freaking out. The guy who was the room mate of the guy I had been talking to had a deformed face. Not extremely but deformed. Like around his mouth. I was like damn you really can't trust a voice over the phone. The guy I had originally been talking to looked normal enough. So in my head I'm thinking am I going to continue to walk towards them and sit with them or am I going to turn around and run. I decided well what the hell I'm here and I'm hungry. I shook their hands and took a seat. I just ordered a waffle with sweet tea to drink. they were drinking coffee and I don't remember what they ate. We made small talk and I could tell that there was something off with his roommate. He was a bit slow it seemed like which blew my mind because I had no idea while I was talking to him on the phone. He sounded completely normal. As we are talking the guy that I had met online keeps his mouth kind of covered. Warning sign number three. Then we was talking about something funny and he started laughing and I could then see why exactly he was hiding his mouth. He had some teeth missing in the front. I was like no friggin way! Are you kidding me! So we go to leave. I didn't even hug them. I said thank you for the breakfast. They kept asking me if I wanted to go to their place to watch a movie and I said no I have to get back to my kids. He texted me a couple of times after that but I never responded and he eventually got the hint. On the way home from the awkward experience I made a mental note. Make sure when they send me a headshot I tell them to show me a big toothy smile. No pic equals no date. I hate wasting a hot outfit and a great hair day.
If you have an online dating horror story post a comment so I don't feel alone hahaha
So I've been on this dating site called Plenty of Fish. I started talking to a guy who was a soldier. Living by Fort Benning it's rare if you meet a guy who is not a soldier. Anyways I digress that's a whole other story. We talked online and on the phone for a couple of weeks. He sounded like a nice guy. He sent me a picture of himself and he wasn't bad looking at all. He liked scary movies like I do. So one night I was talking to him on the phone then he had to go because he was going to a party. I called the next day in the morning and it was his roommate that answered his phone. So I'm thinking this is strange. He starts talking to me. Telling me where he is from and how he knows him and what he does. He sounded so cute. He then starts to hit on me. I was like omg what kind of dude macs on their friends chick you know. I wasn't dating the guy so I flirted back and everything. I was like man this dude sounds really cute. I kept asking for him to send me a pic. He kept giving me different excuses. Ladies that's a warning sign. I ignored it because I keep giving people the benefit of a doubt. I like to give them a chance. I am not doing that anymore. So the dude I had been talking to wakes up and I start talking to him and we were joking about how his friend was hitting on me and then he has to start getting dressed so i let him go. His friend starts texting me on his roommates phone and he eventually invites me to breakfast with them. I'm like cool. I'd love to have breakfast with two hot guys. Not to mention a free breakfast anyways. I tell them to give me an hour. I get all dolled up and wear some booty poppin skinny jeans. A cute top that showed some cleavage. I had my hair down and it was a perfect hair day. My makeup was on point. I stand back for one last look and I'm like damn I look good. So I text them stating that I was on my way. Then warning sign number two pops up. He was like are you sure you wanna have breakfast with us? That was his room mate. I'm like what the fuck. Dude do you want me to come or not? I'm thinking they just didn't wanna be stuck having breakfast with me. But the guy I had been talking to was like no no we want you to come he's just worried cause we aren't dressed to impress they just threw something on. I was like OK then I'm on my way. As I'm getting closer to waffle house. I'm getting all excited more because I'm getting a free breakfast and second I'm gonna be hanging out with some hot dudes or so I thought. He texts me telling me that they are in the back towards the restrooms. I park my car, take one last look at myself and walked in. I turn the corner. I am instantly screaming. OMG OMG OMG. Of course this was all in my head. My outward appearance was warm and friendly with a bright smile on my face. But in my head I was totally freaking out. The guy who was the room mate of the guy I had been talking to had a deformed face. Not extremely but deformed. Like around his mouth. I was like damn you really can't trust a voice over the phone. The guy I had originally been talking to looked normal enough. So in my head I'm thinking am I going to continue to walk towards them and sit with them or am I going to turn around and run. I decided well what the hell I'm here and I'm hungry. I shook their hands and took a seat. I just ordered a waffle with sweet tea to drink. they were drinking coffee and I don't remember what they ate. We made small talk and I could tell that there was something off with his roommate. He was a bit slow it seemed like which blew my mind because I had no idea while I was talking to him on the phone. He sounded completely normal. As we are talking the guy that I had met online keeps his mouth kind of covered. Warning sign number three. Then we was talking about something funny and he started laughing and I could then see why exactly he was hiding his mouth. He had some teeth missing in the front. I was like no friggin way! Are you kidding me! So we go to leave. I didn't even hug them. I said thank you for the breakfast. They kept asking me if I wanted to go to their place to watch a movie and I said no I have to get back to my kids. He texted me a couple of times after that but I never responded and he eventually got the hint. On the way home from the awkward experience I made a mental note. Make sure when they send me a headshot I tell them to show me a big toothy smile. No pic equals no date. I hate wasting a hot outfit and a great hair day.
If you have an online dating horror story post a comment so I don't feel alone hahaha
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Why I'm O.K. With Being Single On Valentines
Well I've noticed all over facebook people are either so happy with their significant other or they wish they had someone. Personally I wouldn't post to the world how lonely I am. That's just sad and depressing. This year though I'm OK that I'm single. I used to always have to be with someone. I was never single. After my divorce I was so scared to be alone. It scared me more that I wanted to stay in a marriage that wasn't working for the simple fact of not being alone. I would of been more depressed staying. Now looking back at everything that transpired me into getting to this point I see that it was meant to be. I was so young and still am and have yet to learn what kind of woman I am and will continue to grow to be. I love how I can come home, hang up my keys, put away my purse, take my bra off and throw it on the floor, plop my ass on the couch in front of the t.v. I don't have to hear why the house isn't clean. Or when am I going to start cooking dinner. Hell if I don't want to cook I don't have to. I'm enjoying doing things the way I want them done. I'm enjoying being selfish and not having to worry about what my husband or boyfriend wants to do. Basically I'm enjoying the simple fact that I am making myself happy. Don't get me wrong, I would like to find love again. I miss having that deep connection and having your own little world with someone. If it finds me that's great too. I'm just not going to sit around feeling sorry for myself thinking nobody loves me. I know this sound's like such a cliche but I have my kids, family, and friends who were truly there for me at my darkest moments and I know I will be just fine. So my advice to all woman young and old is to find yourself. Find what makes you happy. Find what you wanna do for you. Don't sacrifice the things that will make you happy and help you reach your goals for the love of a man. Sometimes they don't stick around and you are left alone with nothing to pick up the pieces and having to start all the way from the bottom again. If he loves you then he will compromise. Love wouldn't make you give up your dreams so theirs can be fulfilled. Tell your daughters because I think every young woman should know this upon entering the dating world. DISCOVER WHO YOU ARE!!! You might be amazed to find how wonderfuly imperfect and strong you are.
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